Sunday, 06 September 2009
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Dating Games.
My brother and I work together at the local grocery store. He just started a year ago, and he just turned 17. He agrees with me on several things about this grocery store, including the fact that the the few employees who come to work high more often than not are a little strange. One girl comes to work so stoned that she moves like a snail, taking more than five minutes to ring up one customer at the register. Her drug problem is very obvious, so obvious in fact, that I have had customers come up and ask me if she was on something because she was acting strange.
The strangest thing she's been doing, though, is not taking too long and making her addiction noticeable to everyone and their grandmother. The strangest thing she's been doing is hitting on my brother. She just turned 21 years old, and she repeatedly asked him to come to the bar with her to celebrate. How many times did he have to tell her he was only seventeen before she understood that it meant he was underage?
Not only that, I have heard her saying things to other employees. Things like, "He's so cute, I just want to grab his face and kiss him." or "Tell him to meet me in the back room and we can make out."
I'm sorry. This is work, not play time. And you will not be playing with anyone, much less my 17 year old brother.
The age thing bothers me. She's 21, four years older than him. Typically, guys mature much later than girls, so a woman who is four years older is often at a significantly different place in her life. Not only that, she just broke up with her boyfriend, so this is likely a rebound thing, which means it's on a whim, and I don't want my brother to be getting involved in something so silly as that. And this "boyfriend" she just broke up with isn't even really a boy. He was a thirty year old man. How could she possibly want to go from dating a 30 year old man to a 17 year old boy? She couldn't possibly be looking for the same sort of relationship, because a 17 high school senior does not have the means to offer what a 30 year old working man can.
I never realized I have the protective older sister gene inside me, but every time I see this girl, I feel as though my claws are coming out and I have the urge to destroy her.
I don't want her, her drug habit or her "kissing" desire, if that's all there may be there, to influence my brother in anyway. I know he deserves better than that.
Maybe I'm being a bit unreasonable here. I don't know. I just want what's best for my younger brother. It's what an older sister is supposed to do. And I'm not going to let anyone or anything less than the best get close enough for him to bother with. So, if I'm crazy, then, oh well.
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Comments (13)
Yeah but you're vagblocking your bro into getting laid with an older woman! D:
criminal.
@Gerald_Washington - Gahh. I don't wait to think about my little brother getting laid at all! ICK!
I am 2nd eldest to 4 sisters and a younger brother and I'd want what's best for them too, even if they tell me that they "really like somebody, and will do everything to show they're serious!" I do not want nothing but the best for them! That's what our oldest brother tells us anyway. Haha.
is she pretty?
@Uek - That is neither here nor there. Although, I suppose she would be if her eyes weren't always red.
@afadedphotox - Haha. It may not matter to you, but a 17 year old boy will care.
I'd be super clear with her and ask her to back the F off.
But that's just me. :)
you're not being over protected, you're just being a good sister (:
just warn your brother so he doesn't get kidnapped by her. ;D
Punch her outside of work ;) Or maybe give her a swift kick where it hurts.
You've told us a lot about her, but you haven't said much, if anything, about what your brother thinks of all this. Without me knowing what he says, I think . . .
Maybe you could sit and have a chat with him about how he's handling it or how he should handle it, not in a bossy way, but in a let's-figure-this-out way. Because, from my experience, if she's going to leave her crush alone, it's going to have to be said by the pursued himself. Otherwise, it won't hurt enough, won't be serious enough, and she will still have doubts about his true feelings.You just have to chat with your brother, ultimately its his choice. 17 is of age a lot of places.
this is gonna be very different from what everyone else is saying. i don't think she's being serious. let me use an example that almost entirely mirrors the scenario!
when i was 21, and working as a server in a restaurant, there was a host there that was 17. everyone was abuzz with how hot he was, and i joined in on the banter, and all their talk about how "i could teach him a thing or two". i'd just broken up with my 28 year old boyfriend of 3 years, so everyone thought i was serious about it. i MOST DEFINITELY was not serious.
maybe she's flirting and trying to get attention from him. it doesn't mean she's trying to cross that line.
I really don't think age is an issue unless it crosses the adult/child border...and this is iffy. I don't know... maybe she's just a freak. I think you're wise to be protective.
With the drug issue, the recent loss of a boyfriend... and whatever else.. (21 isn't as easy an age as people may think..) maybe she's just trying to attract someone so that she can assure herself that she's still attractive. What better target than a teenage boy?